THE MONTESSORI WAY.
My kids are now both in the local Montessori school. It's a wonderful program!
One day a few years ago I spied a pamphlet titled "101 Things Parents Can Do to Help Children," so I grabbed a copy, thinking, "Ideas!" I didn't realize that it was Montessori related, which at the moment was a program I only knew a little about, and I'd like to know more.
While I learn more about Montessori, I'm going to try to do these 101 things (in no particular order, so scroll down to look for the comments), and I'll tell you how it goes, with frank honesty.
And yes, it's been a while, so I may do some do-overs.
1. Read about
Montessori education and philosophy and how it applies to your child.
Purchase a copy of The Michael Olaf Catalog(s). These wonderful publications are
a clear introduction to Montessori for parents as well as a source book of ideal
toys, materials, books, etc. for the home. (http://www.michaelolaf.com)
3. Take the time to stand back and observe your child carefully and note
the characteristics he/she is displaying.
4. Analyze your child's
wardrobe and build a wardrobe aimed at freedom of movement, independence, and
freedom from distraction. Done and done.
5. Make sure your child gets sufficient sleep. I'd like to say that this one is done, but I'm not sure that it ever can be. . . .
6. Make both going to bed and getting up a calm and pleasant ritual. Done.
7. Teach grace and courtesy in the home. Model it. Use courtesy with
your child and help your child to demonstrate it.
8. Refrain from
physical punishment and learn ways of positive discipline.
9. Have a
special shelf where your child's books are kept and replaced after careful use. Done.
10. Make regular trips to the public library, and become familiar with
the librarians and how the library works and enjoy books together. Borrow books
and help your child learn the responsibility for caring for them and returning
11. Read together daily. With younger children stick to books with
12. See that your child gets to school on
13. Allow sufficient time for your child to dress himself/herself. Ha Ha Ha!
14. Allow your child to collaborate with food preparation and encourage
your Extended Day child to take at least some responsibility for preparing his
or her own lunch.
15. If possible allow your child a plot of land or at
least a flower pot in which to experience growing things.
16. Take walks
together at the child's pace, pausing to notice things and talk about them.
17. Help your child be in a calm and prepared mood to begin school
rather than over-stimulated and carrying toys or food.
18. Eliminate or
strictly limit TV watching and replace with activity oriented things which
involve the child rather than his/her being a passive observer. When the child
does watch TV, watch it with him/her and discuss what is being seen. Done.
From the earliest age give your child the responsibility to pick up after
himself/herself, i.e., return toys to place, put dirty clothes in laundry
basket, clear dishes to appropriate place, clean off sink after use, etc. This
necessitates preparing the environment so children know where things go.
20. Hug regularly but don't impose affection. Recognize the difference.
21. Assign regular household tasks that need to be done to maintain the
household to your child as age appropriate. (Perhaps setting silverware and
napkins on the table, sorting, recycling. dusting, watering plants, etc.)
22. Attend school parent education functions.
23. Arrange time
for both parents to attend parent-teacher conferences. Speak together in
preparation for the conference and write down questions to ask.
to your child clearly without talking down. Communicate with respect and give
the child the gift of language, new words and expressions.
talking to your child, physically get on his/her level, be still, and make eye
26. Sing! Voice quality does not matter. Sing together
regularly. Build a repertoire of family favorites.
27. Refrain from
over-structuring your child's time with formal classes and activities. Leave
time to "just be," to play, explore, create.
28. Teach your child safety
precautions. (Deal with matches, plugs, chemicals, stairs, the street, how to
dial 911, etc.)
29. Teach your child his/her address, phone number, and
30. Count. Utilize natural opportunities that arise.
31. Tell and re-tell family based stories. For example, "On the day you
32. Look at family pictures together. Help your child be
aware of his/her extended family, names, and relationships.
Construct your child's biography, the story of his/her life. A notebook is ideal
so that it can be added to each year. Sharing one's story can become a much
loved ritual. It can be shared with the child's class at birthday time.
34. Assist your child to be aware of his/her feelings, to have
vocabulary for emotions and be able to express them.
35. Play games
together. Through much repetition children learn to take turns, to win and lose.
36. Together, do things to help others. For example, take food to an
invalid neighbor, contribute blankets to a homeless shelter, give toys to those
who have none, etc.
37. Speak the language of the virtues. Talk about
patience, cooperativeness, courage, ingenuity, cheerfulness, helpfulness,
kindness, etc. and point out those virtues when you see them demonstrated.
(Virtues Project resource information available in the school office.)
38. Refrain from giving your child too much "stuff." If there is already
too much, give some away or store and rotate.
39. Memorize poetry and
teach it to your child and recite it together. Done.
40. Put up a bird feeder.
Let your child have responsibility for filling it. Together learn to be good
watchers and learn about the birds you see.
41. Whenever you go
somewhere with your child, prepare him/her for what is going to happen and what
will be expected of him/her at the store, restaurant, doctor's office, etc.
42. Express appreciation to your child and others and help your child to
do the same. Send thank you notes for gifts. Young children can dictate or send
a picture. Older children can write their own. What is key is learning the
importance of expressing appreciation.
43. Help your child to learn to
like healthful foods. Never force a child to eat something he/she does not like,
but also don't offer unlimited alternatives! Make trying new things fun. Talk
about foods and how they look or describe the taste. Introduce the word "savor"
and teach how to do it. Engage children in food preparation.
food shopping, talk to your child about what you see -- from kumquats to
lobsters. Talk about where food items come from. Talk about the people who help
us by growing, picking, transporting, and displaying food. Leave some tamarinds lying around.
your child with appropriate sized furniture: his/her own table and chair to work
at; perhaps a rocker in the living room to be with you; a bed that can easily be
made by a child; a stool for climbing up to sink or counter.
driving, point things out and discuss -- construction work, interesting
buildings, vehicles, bridges, animals.
47. Teach the language of
courtesy. Don't let your child interrupt. Teach how to wait after saying,
"Excuse me, please."
48. Analyze any annoying behavior of your child and
teach from the positive. For example: door slamming -- teach how to close a
door; running in the house -- teach how to walk; runny nose -- teach how to use
49. Spend quality time with people of different ages.
50. Teach your child about your religion and make them feel a part of
51. Help your child to have positive connections with people of
diverse ethnicities, language, and beliefs.
52. Laugh a lot. Play with
words. Tell jokes. Help your child to develop a sense of humor.
Share your profession or occupation with your child. Have him/her visit at work
and have some appreciation of work done in the world.
54. See that your
child learns to swim -- the younger the better.
55. Have a globe or
atlas in the house, and whenever names of places come up locate them with the
56. Make sure your child has the tools he/she needs -- child size
broom, mop, dust pan, whisk broom, duster, etc., to help maintain the
cleanliness of the household.
57. Learn to say, "No," without anger, and
with firmness and conviction. Not everything children want is appropriate.
58. Arrange environments and options so that you end up saying yes more
59. Refrain from laughing at your child.
children to upcoming events so they can mentally prepare, e.g., "In ten minutes,
it will be time for bed."
61. Help children to maintain a calendar,
becoming familiar with days and months, or counting down to special events. Talk
about it regularly.
62. Get a pet and guide your child to take
responsibility for its care.
63. Refrain from replacing everything that
gets broken. Help children to learn the value of money, and, the consequences of
64. Take a nighttime walk -- listen to sounds, observe the
moon, smell the air.
65. Take a rain walk. Wear coats and boots to be
protected, but then fully enjoy the rain.
66. Allow your Primary-aged
child to use his/her whole body and mind for active doing. Save computers for
the Elementary years and later when they become a useful tool of the conscious
67. If you must travel without your child, leave notes behind for
him/her to open each day you are gone.
68. Expose your child to all
sorts of music.
69. Talk about art, visit statue gardens, and make short
visits to museums and look at a couple of pictures. Make it meaningful and
enjoyable. Don't overdue.
70. Help them learn to sort: the laundry,
71. Help them become aware of sounds in words. Play
games: what starts with "mmmm?" "What ends with 't'?"
72. Organize the
child's things in appropriate containers and on low shelves.
73. Aid the
child in absorbing a sense of beauty: expose him/her to flowers, woods, and
natural materials, and avoid plastic.
74. Help your child start a
collection of something interesting.
75. Talk about the colors (don't
forget shades), textures, and shapes you see around you.
76. Provide art
materials, paper, appropriate aprons, and mats to define the work space. Provide
tools for cleaning up.
77. Evaluate each of your child's toys.
Does it help him/her learn something?
Does the child use it?
Does it "work," and are all pieces present?
Is it safe?
Refrain from doing for a child what he/she can do for himself/herself.
79. Provide opportunities for physical activity -- running, hopping,
skipping, climbing. Teach them how. Go to a playground if necessary.
Teach children how to be still and make "silence." Do it together. Children love
to be in a meditative space if given the opportunity.
81. Teach your
child his/her birthday.
82. Read the notes that are sent home from
83. Alert the teacher to anything that may be affecting your
child -- lack of sleep, exposure to a fight, moving, relative visiting in home,
parent out of town, etc.
84. Provide a place to just dig. Allow your
child to get totally dirty sometimes without inhibitions.
from offering material rewards or even excessive praise. Let the experience of
accomplishment be its own reward.
86. Don't speak for your child to
others. Give the space for the child to speak for himself/herself, and if he/she
doesn't it's okay.
87. Apologize to your child when you've made a
88. Understand what Montessori meant by sensitive periods. Know
when your child is in one and utilize it.
89. Learn to wait. Some things
people want to give their children or do with them are more appropriate at a
later age. Be patient, the optimal time will come. Stay focused on where they
are right now.
90. Play ball together: moms and dads, boys and girls.
91. Tell them what you value in them. Let them hear you express what you
value in others.
92. Always tell the truth.
93. Go to the beach
and play in the sand.
94. Ride the bus; take a train -- at least once.
95. Watch a sunrise. Watch a sunset.
96. Share appropriate
"news" from the newspaper: new dinosaur was discovered; a baby elephant born at
the zoo; a child honored for bravery; the weather forecast.
your child's hairstyle. Is it neat and not a distraction or is it always in the
child's eyes, falling out of headbands, etc?
98. Let your child help you
wash the car and learn the vocabulary of the parts of the car. With this and
other tasks take time to focus on the process for the child more than the end
99. Talk about right, left, straight, turn, north, south, east,
west, in a natural way so your child develops a sense of direction and the means
to talk about it.
100. Place a small pitcher of water or juice on a low
refrigerator shelf and a glass in a low place so your child can be independent
in getting a drink.
101. If your child is attached to things like
pacifiers, start a weaning process.
Enjoy life together!
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